Currently Loving – Thank u, next

It’s been a really long time since I broke up with someone and felt the heartache Ariana Grande felt in this song. If this song could have existed over five years ago, it would have saved me years of pain and teach me to move forward. It’s a truth that a lot of people figure out while examining themselves and their past relationships. You may no longer be with that person, but you can thank them for the lessons you’ve learned. You can thank them for the opportunity to feel love and loss. You can thank them for letting you go so you can be the best version of yourself.

However, it’s not as easy for people to handle heartache the way Ariana Grande has. Some people are like me; crawling into a hole, crying it out, and hoping someone out there will love me eventually. I remember days where I would punch walls and pound my desk trying to understand where I went wrong.

The truth was that we were both wrong for each other. It took me three years to finally figure that out and when I did, it just happens. You stop what you’re doing and you stop crying and you laugh at yourself for being so silly in the first place.

Then someone wonderful comes along that you didn’t expect and that person fills your world with love and adventure and all the things you’ve ever hoped for. It finally happened and the funny thing is that it happened when I wasn’t even looking. It’s funny how the world works in mysterious ways.

Despite whatever pain you’re feeling right now, I’m sorry to hear you’re going through that. I hope that this Friday’s list will give you some solace and help you get to your “thank u, next.”

Read Tiny Beautiful Things by Cheryl Strayed

This book helps with a lot. If you’re stuck writing. If you’re unsure what to do next with your career. And most importantly, what to do with that person that hurt your feelings. Cheryl Strayed isn’t the forgiving type to hold your hand and tell you that things will get better. I mean, she does say that things will get better but she’s more direct about it. Don’t get caught up in that ex and consider yourself and what you need. It’s a dose of reality that many people are afraid to swallow, but once you do you won’t need sugar to help it go down.

Watch and commiserate with The First Wives Club

In Ariana Grande’s Ellen performance, she and her backup singers are dressed in these iconic white outfits with what looks like an abandoned wedding reception. If you weren’t aware, they’re re-enacting the final scene from one of my all-time favorite movies The First Wives Club. This movie is iconic. It follows three middle-aged women who were left by their husbands for younger wives. They first start off with trying to seek revenge for their pain and learn that the best medicine is helping others from feeling the way they do.

Buy yourself a piece of jewelry from Edge of Ember

The best way to get over someone is to treat yourself. For me, that’s buying myself a piece of jewelry. Buying yourself jewelry reminds me of that scene from the Sex and the City movie. Samantha takes her hard-earned money to buy a beautiful diamond flower ring. When her significant other goes and buys it for her, she feels a little jaded about it. She wanted to buy the ring for herself and treat herself to a little luxury, which I feel like sometimes we do pretty poorly. We always tend to grab a cupcake or chocolates when we treat ourselves, but if you’re dealing with an emotional breakup it’s always nice to remind yourself you’ve got a relationship with you.

 

 

 

One thought on “Currently Loving – Thank u, next

  1. Oh my goodness, yes to all of this! I wish I could tell my past self that it was all just a lesson that would better me for the future. Also, I LOVE that you recognized the First Wives Club throwback! Love that film!

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