20 Immigrant Stories to Read This Fourth of July

20 Immigrant Stories to Read This Fourth of July

Happy 4th of July, America!

In the past few months, tensions have been high in America. The world as we know it has banned travel to and from Muslim-centric countries and displaced children from their parents traveling between American borders. It’s a tough time to be here.

Coming from a family of immigrants who came to this country looking for the opportunities we heard through the grapevines of South Korea, I find myself completely distraught by these decisions our government has made. It’s difficult to write this article objectively. America has always been my home and it’s upsetting to live in a place where all of a sudden it feels you’re no longer welcome. But today is the day America won its independent from the “oppressive British” almost 250 years ago and wrote the Declaration of Independence; a document stating:

We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness.

Being a country made of immigrants, I decided to put together a list of fictional stories and real-life stories of people who find themselves in this country and not throwing away their “shots.”

Love, Loss, and What We Ate by Padma Lakshmi

25816693Long before Padma Lakshmi ever stepped onto a television set, she learned that how we eat is an extension of how we love, how we comfort, how we forge a sense of home—and how we taste the world as we navigate our way through it. Shuttling between continents as a child, she lived a life of dislocation that would become habit as an adult, never quite at home in the world. And yet, through all her travels, her favorite food remained the simple rice she first ate sitting on the cool floor of her grandmother’s kitchen in South India.

Poignant and surprising, Love, Loss, and What We Ate is Lakshmi’s extraordinary account of her journey from that humble kitchen, ruled by ferocious and unforgettable women, to the judges’ table of Top Chef and beyond. It chronicles the fierce devotion of the remarkable people who shaped her along the way, from her headstrong mother who flouted conservative Indian convention to make a life in New York, to her Brahmin grandfather—a brilliant engineer with an irrepressible sweet tooth—to the man seemingly wrong for her in every way who proved to be her truest ally. A memoir rich with sensual prose and punctuated with evocative recipes, it is alive with the scents, tastes, and textures of a life that spans complex geographies both internal and external.

Love, Loss, and What We Ate is an intimate and unexpected story of food and family—both the ones we are born to and the ones we create—and their enduring legacies.

Everyone Knows you Go Home by Natalia Sylvester

35233730The first time Isabel meets her father-in-law, Omar, he’s already dead—an apparition appearing uninvited on her wedding day. Her husband, Martin, still unforgiving for having been abandoned by his father years ago, confesses that he never knew the old man had died. So Omar asks Isabel for the impossible: persuade Omar’s family—especially his wife, Elda—to let him redeem himself.

Isabel and Martin settle into married life in a Texas border town, and Omar returns each year on the celebratory Day of the Dead. Every year Isabel listens, but to the aggrieved Martin and Elda, Omar’s spirit remains invisible. Through his visits, Isabel gains insight into not just the truth about his disappearance and her husband’s childhood but also the ways grief can eat away at love. When Martin’s teenage nephew crosses the Mexican border and takes refuge in Isabel and Martin’s home, questions about past and future homes, borders, and belonging arise that may finally lead to forgiveness—and alter all their lives forever.

When I Was Puerto Rican by Esmeralda Santiago

25419Esmeralda Santiago’s story begins in rural Puerto Rico, where her childhood was full of both tenderness and domestic strife, tropical sounds and sights as well as poverty. Growing up, she learned the proper way to eat a guava, the sound of tree frogs in the mango groves at night, the taste of the delectable sausage called morcilla, and the formula for ushering a dead baby’s soul to heaven. As she enters school we see the clash, both hilarious and fierce, of Puerto Rican and Yankee culture. When her mother, Mami, a force of nature, takes off to New York with her seven, soon to be eleven children, Esmeralda, the oldest, must learn new rules, a new language, and eventually take on a new identity. In this first volume of her much-praised, bestselling trilogy, Santiago brilliantly recreates the idyllic landscape and tumultuous family life of her earliest years and her tremendous journey from the barrio to Brooklyn, from translating for her mother at the welfare office to high honors at Harvard.

The Namesake by Jhumpa Lahiri

33917In The Namesake, Lahiri enriches the themes that made her collection an international bestseller: the immigrant experience, the clash of cultures, the conflicts of assimilation, and, most poignantly, the tangled ties between generations. Here again Lahiri displays her deft touch for the perfect detail — the fleeting moment, the turn of phrase — that opens whole worlds of emotion.

The Namesake takes the Ganguli family from their tradition-bound life in Calcutta through their fraught transformation into Americans. On the heels of their arranged wedding, Ashoke and Ashima Ganguli settle together in Cambridge, Massachusetts. An engineer by training, Ashoke adapts far less warily than his wife, who resists all things American and pines for her family. When their son is born, the task of naming him betrays the vexed results of bringing old ways to the new world. Named for a Russian writer by his Indian parents in memory of a catastrophe years before, Gogol Ganguli knows only that he suffers the burden of his heritage as well as his odd, antic name. 

Lahiri brings great empathy to Gogol as he stumbles along the first-generation path, strewn with conflicting loyalties, comic detours, and wrenching love affairs. With penetrating insight, she reveals not only the defining power of the names and expectations bestowed upon us by our parents, but also the means by which we slowly, sometimes painfully, come to define ourselves.

Purpose: An Immigrant’s Story by Wyclef Jean

12065790Purpose is Wyclef Jean’s powerful story of a life rooted in struggle, soul-searching, art, and survival. In his own voice the multi-platinum musician and producer shares everything, from his childhood in Haiti to his rise to the top of the American music scene. For the first time ever, Wyclef reveals the behind-the-scenes story of the Fugees, including his partnership with Lauryn Hill and Pras Michel, the details of their award-winning album The Score, and the solo career that followed. For fans of early Wyclef efforts like The Carnival or later albums like From the Hut, To the Projects, To the Mansion—and for fans of books like Jay-Z’s Decoded or Russell Simmons’ Super Rich—Wyclef’s Purpose is an inspiring, one-of-a-kind look at one of the world’s most talented artists. 

The Sun is Also a Star by Nicola Yoon

28763485Natasha: I’m a girl who believes in science and facts. Not fate. Not destiny. Or dreams that will never come true. I’m definitely not the kind of girl who meets a cute boy on a crowded New York City street and falls in love with him. Not when my family is twelve hours away from being deported to Jamaica. Falling in love with him won’t be my story.

Daniel: I’ve always been the good son, the good student, living up to my parents’ high expectations. Never the poet. Or the dreamer. But when I see her, I forget about all that. Something about Natasha makes me think that fate has something much more extraordinary in store—for both of us.

The Universe: Every moment in our lives has brought us to this single moment. A million futures lie before us. Which one will come true?

Bird of Paradise: How I Became Latina by Raquel Cepeda

15802306In 2009, when Raquel Cepeda almost lost her estranged father to heart disease, she was terrified she’d never know the truth about her ancestry. Every time she looked in the mirror, Cepeda saw a mystery—a tapestry of races and ethnicities that came together in an ambiguous mix. With time running out, she decided to embark on an archaeological dig of sorts by using the science of ancestral DNA testing to excavate everything she could about her genetic history.

Digging through memories long buried, she embarks upon a journey not only into her ancestry but also into her own history. Born in Harlem to Dominican parents, she was sent to live with her maternal grandparents in the Paraíso (Paradise) district in Santo Domingo while still a baby. It proved to be an idyllic reprieve in her otherwise fraught childhood. Paraíso came to mean family, home, belonging. When Cepeda returned to the US, she discovered her family constellation had changed. Her mother had a new, abusive boyfriend, who relocated the family to San Francisco. When that relationship fell apart, Cepeda found herself back in New York City with her father and European stepmother: attending tennis lessons and Catholic schools; fighting vicious battles wih her father, who discouraged her from expressing the Dominican part of her hyphenated identity; and immersed in the ’80s hip-hop culture of uptown Manhattan. It was in these streets, through the prism of hip-hop and the sometimes loving embrace of her community, that Cepeda constructed her own identity.

Years later, when Cepeda had become a successful journalist and documentary filmmaker, the strands of her DNA would take her further, across the globe and into history. Who were her ancestors? How did they—and she—become Latina? Her journey, as the most unforgettable ones often do, would lead her to places she hadn’t expected to go. With a vibrant lyrical prose and fierce honesty, Cepeda parses concepts of race, identity, and ancestral DNA among Latinos by using her own Dominican-American story as one example, and in the process arrives at some sort of peace with her father.

The Book of Unknown Americans by Christina Henriquez

18465852After their daughter Maribel suffers a near-fatal accident, the Riveras leave México and come to America. But upon settling at Redwood Apartments, a two-story cinderblock complex just off a highway in Delaware, they discover that Maribel’s recovery–the piece of the American Dream on which they’ve pinned all their hopes–will not be easy. Every task seems to confront them with language, racial, and cultural obstacles.

At Redwood also lives Mayor Toro, a high school sophomore whose family arrived from Panamá fifteen years ago. Mayor sees in Maribel something others do not: that beyond her lovely face, and beneath the damage she’s sustained, is a gentle, funny, and wise spirit. But as the two grow closer, violence casts a shadow over all their futures in America.

Peopled with deeply sympathetic characters, this poignant yet unsentimental tale of young love tells a riveting story of unflinching honesty and humanity that offers a resonant new definition of what it means to be an American. An instant classic is born.

In the Country We Love by Diane Guerrero

25666051Diane Guerrero, the television actress from the megahit Orange is the New Black and Jane the Virgin, was just fourteen years old on the day her parents and brother were arrested and deported while she was at school. Born in the U.S., Guerrero was able to remain in the country and continue her education, depending on the kindness of family friends who took her in and helped her build a life and a successful acting career for herself, without the support system of her family.

In the Country We Love is a moving, heartbreaking story of one woman’s extraordinary resilience in the face of the nightmarish struggles of undocumented residents in this country. There are over 11 million undocumented immigrants living in the US, many of whom have citizen children, whose lives here are just as precarious, and whose stories haven’t been told. Written with Michelle Burford, this memoir is a tale of personal triumph that also casts a much-needed light on the fears that haunt the daily existence of families likes the author’s and on a system that fails them over and over.

The Refugees by Viet Thanh Nguyen

30358505From a young Vietnamese refugee who suffers profound culture shock when he comes to live with two gay men in San Francisco, to a woman whose husband is suffering from dementia and starts to confuse her for a former lover, to a girl living in Ho Chi Minh City whose older half-sister comes back from America having seemingly accomplished everything she never will, the stories are a captivating testament to the dreams and hardships of immigration. 

Dreams From My Father: A Story of Race and Inheritance by Barack Obama

88061Nine years before the Senate campaign that made him one of the most influential and compelling voices in American politics, Barack Obama published this lyrical, unsentimental, and powerfully affecting memoir, which became a #1 New York Times bestseller when it was reissued in 2004. Dreams from My Father tells the story of Obama’s struggle to understand the forces that shaped him as the son of a black African father and white American mother—a struggle that takes him from the American heartland to the ancestral home of his great-aunt in the tiny African village of Alego. 

Obama opens his story in New York, where he hears that his father—a figure he knows more as a myth than as a man—has died in a car accident. The news triggers a chain of memories as Barack retraces his family’s unusual history: the migration of his mother’s family from small-town Kansas to the Hawaiian islands; the love that develops between his mother and a promising young Kenyan student, a love nurtured by youthful innocence and the integrationist spirit of the early sixties; his father’s departure from Hawaii when Barack was two, as the realities of race and power reassert themselves; and Barack’s own awakening to the fears and doubts that exist not just between the larger black and white worlds but within himself.

Propelled by a desire to understand both the forces that shaped him and his father’s legacy, Barack moves to Chicago to work as a community organizer. There, against the backdrop of tumultuous political and racial conflict, he works to turn back the mounting despair of the inner city. His story becomes one with those of the people he works with as he learns about the value of community, the necessity of healing old wounds, and the possibility of faith in the midst of adversity.

Barack’s journey comes full circle in Kenya, where he finally meets the African side of his family and confronts the bitter truth of his father’s life. Traveling through a country racked by brutal poverty and tribal conflict, but whose people are sustained by a spirit of endurance and hope, Barack discovers that he is inescapably bound to brothers and sisters living an ocean away—and that by embracing their common struggles he can finally reconcile his divided inheritance.

A searching meditation on the meaning of identity in America, Dreams from My Father might be the most revealing portrait we have of a major American leader—a man who is playing, and will play, an increasingly prominent role in healing a fractious and fragmented nation.

Olive Witch: A Memoir by Abeer Hoque

28959742In the 1970s, Nigeria is flush with oil money, building new universities, and hanging on to old colonial habits. Abeer Hoque is a Bangladeshi girl growing up in a small sunlit town, where the red clay earth, corporal punishment and running games are facts of life. At thirteen she moves with her family to suburban Pittsburgh and finds herself surrounded by clouded skies and high schoolers who speak in movie quotes and pop culture slang. Finding her place as a young woman in America proves more difficult than she can imagine. Disassociated from her parents, and laid low by academic pressure and spiralling depression, she is committed to a psychiatric ward in Philadelphia. When she moves to Bangladesh on her own, it proves to be yet another beginning for someone who is only just getting used to being an outsider – wherever she is. Arresting and beautifully written, with poems and weather conditions framing each chapter, Olive Witch is an intimate memoir about taking the long way home.

Free Food for Millionaires by Min Jin Lee

709734Casey Han’s four years at Princeton gave her many things, “But no job and a number of bad habits.” Casey’s parents, who live in Queens, are Korean immigrants working in a dry cleaner, desperately trying to hold on to their culture and their identity. Their daughter, on the other hand, has entered into rarified American society via scholarships. But after graduation, Casey sees the reality of having expensive habits without the means to sustain them. As she navigates Manhattan, we see her life and the lives around her, culminating in a portrait of New York City and its world of haves and have-nots. 

Free Food For Millionaires offers up a fresh exploration of the complex layers we inhabit both in society and within ourselves. Inspired by 19th century novels such as Vanity Fair and Middlemarch, Min Jin Lee examines maintaining one’s identity within changing communities in what is her remarkably assured debut.

The House of Broken Angels by Luis Alberto Urrea

35604591Prizewinning and bestselling writer Luis Urrea has written his Mexican coming-to-America story and his masterpiece. Destined to sit alongside other classic immigrant novels, The House of Broken Angels is a sprawling and epic family saga helmed by patriarch Big Angel. The novel gathers together the entire De La Cruz clan, as they meet for the final birthday party Big Angel is throwing for himself, at home in San Diego, as he nears the end of his struggle with cancer and reflects on his long and full life.

But when Big Angel’s mother, Mama America, approaching one hundred, dies herself as the party nears, he must plan her funeral as well. There will be two family affairs in one weekend: a farewell double-header. Among the attendants is his half-brother and namesake, Little Angel, who comes face to face with the siblings with whom he shared a father but not, as the weekend proceeds to remind him, a life. 

This story of the De La Cruzes is the story of what it means to be a Mexican in America, to have lived two lives across one border. It is a tale of the ravaging power of death to shore up the bits of life you have forgotten, whether by choice or not. Above all, this finely wrought portrait of a deeply complex family and the America they have come to call home is Urrea at his purest and best. Teeming with brilliance and humor, authentic at every turn, The House of Broken Angels cements his reputation as a storyteller of the first rank.

A Place for Us by Fatima Farheen Mirza

35526420A Place for Us unfolds the lives of an Indian-American Muslim family, gathered together in their Californian hometown to celebrate the eldest daughter, Hadia’s, wedding – a match of love rather than tradition. It is here, on this momentous day, that Amar, the youngest of the siblings, reunites with his family for the first time in three years. Rafiq and Layla must now contend with the choices and betrayals that lead to their son’s estrangement – the reckoning of parents who strove to pass on their cultures and traditions to their children; and of children who in turn struggle to balance authenticity in themselves with loyalty to the home they came from.

In a narrative that spans decades and sees family life through the eyes of each member, A Place For Us charts the crucial moments in the family’s past, from the bonds that bring them together to the differences that pull them apart. And as siblings Hadia, Huda, and Amar attempt to carve out a life for themselves, they must reconcile their present culture with their parent’s faith, to tread a path between the old world and the new, and learn how the smallest decisions can lead to the deepest of betrayals.

A deeply affecting and resonant story, A Place for Us is truly a book for our times: a moving portrait of what it means to be an American family today, a novel of love, identity and belonging that eloquently examines what it means to be both American and Muslim — and announces Fatima Farheen Mirza as a major new literary talent.

Americanah by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie

15796700Ifemelu and Obinze are young and in love when they depart military-ruled Nigeria for the West. Beautiful, self-assured Ifemelu heads for America, where despite her academic success, she is forced to grapple with what it means to be black for the first time. Quiet, thoughtful Obinze had hoped to join her, but with post-9/11 America closed to him, he instead plunges into a dangerous, undocumented life in London. Fifteen years later, they reunite in a newly democratic Nigeria, and reignite their passion—for each other and for their homeland.

Behold the Dreamers by Imbolo Mbue

35259724Jende Jonga, a Cameroonian immigrant living in Harlem, has come to the United States to provide a better life for himself, his wife, Neni, and their six-year-old son. In the fall of 2007, Jende can hardly believe his luck when he lands a job as a chauffeur for Clark Edwards, a senior executive at Lehman Brothers. Clark demands punctuality, discretion, and loyalty—and Jende is eager to please. Clark’s wife, Cindy, even offers Neni temporary work at the Edwardses’ summer home in the Hamptons. With these opportunities, Jende and Neni can at last gain a foothold in America and imagine a brighter future.

However, the world of great power and privilege conceals troubling secrets, and soon Jende and Neni notice cracks in their employers’ façades.

When the financial world is rocked by the collapse of Lehman Brothers, the Jongas are desperate to keep Jende’s job—even as their marriage threatens to fall apart. As all four lives are dramatically upended, Jende and Neni are forced to make an impossible choice.

The Joy Luck Club by Amy Tan

7763In 1949, four Chinese women, recent immigrants to San Francisco, begin meeting to eat dim sum, play mahjong, and talk. United in shared loss and hope, they call themselves the Joy Luck Club. With wit and wisdom, Amy Tan examines the sometimes painful, often tender, and always deep connection between these four women and their American-born daughters. As each reveals her secrets, trying to unravel the truth about her life, the strings become more tangled, more entwined…

Native Speaker Chang-Rae Lee

298664In Native Speaker, author Chang-rae Lee introduces readers to Henry Park. Park has spent his entire life trying to become a true American—a native speaker. But even as the essence of his adopted country continues to elude him, his Korean heritage seems to drift further and further away.

Park’s harsh Korean upbringing has taught him to hide his emotions, to remember everything he learns, and most of all to feel an overwhelming sense of alienation. In other words, it has shaped him as a natural spy.

But the very attributes that help him to excel in his profession put a strain on his marriage to his American wife and stand in the way of his coming to terms with his young son’s death. When he is assigned to spy on a rising Korean-American politician, his very identity is tested, and he must figure out who he is amid not only the conflicts within himself but also within the ethnic and political tensions of the New York City streets.

Native Speaker is a story of cultural alienation. It is about fathers and sons, about the desire to connect with the world rather than stand apart from it, about loyalty and betrayal, about the alien in all of us and who we finally are.

Alexander Hamilton by Ron Chernow

16130Few figures in American history have been more hotly debated or more grossly misunderstood than Alexander Hamilton. Chernow’s biography gives Hamilton his due and sets the record straight, deftly illustrating that the political and economic greatness of today’s America is the result of Hamilton’s countless sacrifices to champion ideas that were often wildly disputed during his time. “To repudiate his legacy,” Chernow writes, “is, in many ways, to repudiate the modern world.” Chernow here recounts Hamilton’s turbulent life: an illegitimate, largely self-taught orphan from the Caribbean, he came out of nowhere to take America by storm, rising to become George Washington’s aide-de-camp in the Continental Army, coauthoring The Federalist Papers, founding the Bank of New York, leading the Federalist Party, and becoming the first Treasury Secretary of the United States.Historians have long told the story of America’s birth as the triumph of Jefferson’s democratic ideals over the aristocratic intentions of Hamilton. Chernow presents an entirely different man, whose legendary ambitions were motivated not merely by self-interest but by passionate patriotism and a stubborn will to build the foundations of American prosperity and power. His is a Hamilton far more human than we’ve encountered before—from his shame about his birth to his fiery aspirations, from his intimate relationships with childhood friends to his titanic feuds with Jefferson, Madison, Adams, Monroe, and Burr, and from his highly public affair with Maria Reynolds to his loving marriage to his loyal wife Eliza. And never before has there been a more vivid account of Hamilton’s famous and mysterious death in a duel with Aaron Burr in July of 1804.

Welcome to the Longest Day of the Year

I absolutely love today because of a few reasons:

  1. Today is my mother’s birthday
  2. Today is the longest day of the year

I sometimes imagine what it must be like to live in the Arctic circle where they have the longest days of any place in the entire world and that’s because it doesn’t get dark. Ever.

But for those of us that live in a slightly bigger city (or adjacent), we only get one day of the year where the sun stays out for a little bit longer than it would any other day.

And you all know what I’m going to be doing; reading.

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If you haven’t noticed from my Instagram, I love being indoors. But B and I made it a point to get ourselves an apartment with a balcony so that we can spend some outside.

While not every reader is an introvert, I just happen to fit into the stereotype very well. I like my home and sitting on my green couch and staring out windows at the people enjoying the sunshine. Having a balcony really helps me to get my much needed Vitamin D without having to converse with other people or spend money on a ridiculously large cup of coffee.


Also, the privacy gives me the quiet I need to get some reading done. Sometimes when I go to a cafe or to the park, I get so distracted by all the people around. I want to people watch and not be buried deep in the passages of a novel.

Have you ever experienced this? Have you ever wanted to spend time outside and find yourself stuck on the inside?

Well, if you have, I dare you to step outside for a little while today before the sun goes down on this beautiful day. Or, you can always wait till next year.

Happy Solstice, everyone!


Book Review – It Ends With Us by Colleen Hoover


Just keep swimming.

Synopsis (from Goodreads.com) – Lily hasn’t always had it easy, but that’s never stopped her from working hard for the life she wants. She’s come a long way from the small town in Maine where she grew up—she graduated from college, moved to Boston, and started her own business. So when she feels a spark with a gorgeous neurosurgeon named Ryle Kincaid, everything in Lily’s life suddenly seems almost too good to be true.

Ryle is assertive, stubborn, maybe even a little arrogant. He’s also sensitive, brilliant, and has a total soft spot for Lily. And the way he looks in scrubs certainly doesn’t hurt. Lily can’t get him out of her head. But Ryle’s complete aversion to relationships is disturbing. Even as Lily finds herself becoming the exception to his “no dating” rule, she can’t help but wonder what made him that way in the first place.

As questions about her new relationship overwhelm her, so do thoughts of Atlas Corrigan—her first love and a link to the past she left behind. He was her kindred spirit, her protector. When Atlas suddenly reappears, everything Lily has built with Ryle is threatened.

Rating – 5/5

My thoughts –

Trigger warning

I don’t like being the person that spoils stories, but I feel like if you have certain emotional triggers, you should be forewarned about this book. It’s a beautifully written book and I think it’s important for people to read, but make sure you have a glass of water or a distraction at your side, perhaps even your pet or your kid before you read.

There were a few points throughout this book where I can literally feel my eyes start to water and a flood of emotion about to release, but I managed to somehow avoid those situations. This book makes me want to talk less about the book and more about something women face. I’m sorry if you came here for a traditional review and instead got my political rant.

Naked truth? I have this fear that men somehow will harm me. When I’m walking down the street by myself at night. When I’m standing in an elevator with someone. If I’m going to be traveling to another country. Even if I knew that person, there’s this terror that he could try and harm me in some way.

“There is no such thing as bad people. We’re all just people who sometimes do bad things.”

I don’t want to be the person that pins men against women. I don’t even want to be the person that says all men are inherently bad people. They’re not. However, I’ve always been afraid of men because of their physical power over me; because there might be the slight chance that the person I’m talking to is someone who abuses women.

I remember when I was a kid, my mom was one of those parents that always showed up late picking us up from things. Soccer practice. Violin lessons. You name it. One night after confirmation class with my pastor, I was waiting outside with him for my mom. The entire time I stood there, I stood in utter fear that he could try and do something to me.


He could hit me. He could abduct me. He could rape me. All I could do was hope that my mom’s car would finally turn the corner into the church. I mean, I thought this stuff with a man of the cloth. In my head, it didn’t matter if you wore some religious robe and read the bible and did well with God. In my head, he was a predator and I was some innocent prey.

“It stops here. With me and you. It ends with us.”

I’ve been really blessed and lucky to not see my worse fears come to fruition, but I know that it’s real for some other people. And when it’s made real with people you love or supposed to love, I can’t even imagine that sort of pain.

And Colleen Hoover imagines that for you. By putting the book in the point of view of Lily, I can feel every single ounce of pain she felt. I read her thought process. I also told myself that if a man ever hit me, I would immediately leave them. But how do I weigh out the good times from the bad? How do I trust it won’t ever happen again? How do I know if he still loves me if all I can feel is anger, frustration, and pain?

Also, I can’t imagine the kind of life Ryle lives. He’s strong. He can be the best in his field. He’s so capable of loving someone, but he’s so walled up in the anger and frustration of his childhood. If this book was written in Ryle’s perspective, we might be reading a completely different book.

But from Lily’s perspective, I feel like I can see and feel how that kind of complicated relationship would be so confusing to a woman. I don’t think women who stay with abusive men are weak. They deserve a fucking medal. I do think that it’s not healthy for them to stay and that confuses the point with me. What is the right thing to do? Is there no right or wrong?  What do you do when you have certain obligations or what do you do when you’re so scared of the unknown?

“Just because someone hurts you doesn’t mean you can simply stop loving them. It’s not a person’s actions that hurt the most. It’s the love. If there was no love attached to the action, the pain would be a little easier to bear.”

I have so many thoughts. I wish I can learn more about the subject, but at the same time I hope this book will provide some perspective to those who don’t believe that women can stay and that there’s hope at the end of the story. Please read this book. Please read this book if you have some bias about women who stay in abusive relationships. Please read this book if you’ve been abused in a physical, mental, or emotional way. Situations like this shouldn’t be left swept under the rug. If we expose it, maybe we can save more people.



Book Review – The Unexpected Everything by Morgan Matson


“The idea that you could rethink the thing you’d always thought you wanted and change your plan – it was almost a revolutionary concept. That you could choose what would make you happy, not successful.”

Rating: 4/5

I was heading off to Florida in a few days time, so I wanted to  pick up a book that would be easy to read and very “summery.” My work life has been pretty stressful the past few weeks, so I wanted to read something that wasn’t too conflict-heavy, but also had a sense of nostalgia. I wanted to feel like how I did when I was in college; less responsibility, more fun. I wanted to feel what summer should feel like. I needed to feel less cynical because I’m a moody New Yorker about to head down to the suburbs of Florida. I needed something to get me back in a better mood.

When I picked up The Unexpected Everything, that is exactly what I got. I love Morgan Matson. I’ve read Amy and Roger’s Epic Detour and Since You’ve Been Gone and both books showed the beauty of teenage summer. They’re never too dark or filled with hard-headed stubborn people who never change. They’re realistic and enjoyable, so I was excited when I picked up this one.

Plot summary – A contemporary novel about a 17-year-old girl who’s summer fellowship was suddenly rejected. Now, she figures out what to spend her summer doing. She finds a job working as a dog walker that opens up her normal routine to a little bit of variety.

I’m slightly impressed with that quick plot summary. 😀

My review – This is the story of my angry New Yorker life.

**Please be advised that there are a ton of spoilers after this point**

I started reading this book earlier this week knowing I would carry it with me to Florida. We decided to take a train this year instead of the normal drive. It gave me the opportunity to read rather than stare aimlessly at the open road ahead of us. Throughout the scenic route, I couldn’t put this book down. As we passed each town from Penn Station to Raleigh, NC, I felt the way you’re supposed to feel when you’re reading a good book; complete and utter immersion.

Andie is the main character of this novel, but it sometimes felt like I was reading the stories of all her friends. Even though the book was written in the first person, I knew so much about her friendships with Palmer, Bri, Toby, Tom, and Clark I can’t say wholeheartedly that this book is solely about her.

Their summer is spent like how any teenage summer should be spent. There was time to get some spending money, but then there’s a ton of time just hanging out and spending time together. It’s the kind of summer I wish I had now. Now I spend my summers in a freezing cold office reading spreadsheets and managing young professionals through the trials and tribulations of working at a big corporate office. When I read this book, I’m transported back to when I was 17. I spent time at a local restaurant and talked about what dude I was dating. I totally crushed on a guy that I worked with. I had huge cryfests while I confessed to my parents what I wanted tobe doing with my life.


While I asked for a novel with very little conflict, I found myself missing conflict all together. There were two main points with a little bit of tension. One was the relationship Andie kept with her dad and the second was the loss of her mother. However, Andie and her dad were able to resolve their issues together and her mother did leave her something before she died.

The big conflict point was when Andie’s friend, Toby, found out that their other friend, Bri, was sleeping with Toby’s crush, Wyatt. That was when the cookie of the perfect summer crumbled and it happened in the final quarter of the novel. How frustrating! This small domino piece got kicked out of place causing the rest of the summer spent in silence, taking extra shifts at work, and even contemplating the interest Andie had in her love interest.

I didn’t agree with it. I was thinking the entire time there was going to be some over-the-top conflict that made Andie contemplate the truth between good and evil. Why did this bother me that they had a practically perfect summer? Why did I crave so much more drama?

I thought about this for a day and I think I figured it out. I think it’s because I’m a curmudgeony New Yorker that forgot that the extent of teenage drama should be that their friends are upset about sleeping with each other. A normal teenager’s life shouldn’t be filled with turmoil or emotionally damaging moments. They shouldn’t be raped or bullied or hit with one bad moment after another. I’m so used to finding it in books that when I couldn’t find anything, it didn’t feel real. But the reality is that this is how most teenagers live their lives; conflict free.

And that’s how it should be for everyone. No one should suffer through anything until at least college 😉 It took me some time to process this, but once I did, I found the book so charming and upbeat. I wish I could feel that the low point for everyone is a little tiff between friends.

“If whole galaxies could change, so could I”

I put down the book after the final page and was completely satisfied. I read my summery book sitting in front of the pool and listening to the cicadas chirping across the yard. The ending was sadly predictable, but I think that’s OK. It’s supposed to make you feel the way a young adult feels when they are completely out of luck; that soon enough all you need is the hope that tomorrow will be a better day and that galaxies could change.

Would I recommend? Absolutely.